The Big 'No'!

We all know the scenario…. toddler hears the word 'no' many times, toddler ignores the word 'no', toddler learns the word 'no', toddler thinks saying the word 'no' is absolutely hilarious, the word 'no' becomes apparently ineffective and provider is at wits end! Enunciating the word 'no' is easier than saying 'yes', add that to the fact that kids tend to hear 'no' a lot more frequently and you get a perfect recipe for this seeming negativism.

Toddlers are experimenting with their developing personalities, identities and emerging independence and tend to use this strong, simple yet popular word to demonstrate their individualism.  'No' becomes a declaration of separateness and will be directed at everything and everyone.  How to counter this negativism?  While rules and boundaries are necessary we should try to limit the authoritarian directives, redirect behaviors and save the 'no's for when they are absolutely essential.  'No's are vital for health and safety issues but too many can be stifling for a child and they will rebel or simply ignore all those overwhelming rules.

Read more in my article here:   http://www.childcareonly.com/child-behaviour/dealing-with-no-at-day-care/

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